When I was a teenager, I decided to save sex for marriage. I didn’t make that decision out of fear. My decision to save sex for marriage wasn’t because I thought that sex was bad or dirty. I realized that if I was called to marriage, I’d come to my wedding night without any ‘experience’. But I wanted to love my future spouse freely, totally, faithfully, and fruitfully. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half now. Was our wedding night awkward? It actually wasn’t. Instead, it was really beautiful. I chose to come to the wedding night as a virgin – and I don’t regret a thing.
Today, sex seems to jump out of every magazine, movie plot line, and billboard. Saving sex for marriage can seem prudish and old fashioned. But despite how sex-saturated our culture is, conversations about sex, intimacy, and virginity tend to make people uncomfortable. Many of us may find ourselves echoing the thoughts of Saint Augustine when he cried out “Give me chastity …but not yet!”
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